When all our kids entered school, it became a season of "re-defining Mommy." And that's what I did. I had to figure out what I'd liked and hated about my past jobs and had to create a career that was meaningful, flexible, something I'd enjoy doing and something that would pay!
Just the other day one of my friends said, "I'm still wondering what I'll be when I grow up," when referring to this change of season where she is now a mom to three school-aged children. Another mom friend is thinking about moving out of her teaching profession (after a decade) and into a different occupation altogether.
What is this all about? Does becoming a mother really do this to you?
The short answer is yes.
Your priorities change (along with your body and perhaps shoe size.) And if you are like many of my friends, you didn't put your lucrative career on hold to child rear, just to pick it up again when you were good and ready. You probably kissed it goodbye, embraced motherhood and could never imagine a day when you weren't hauling a child on your hip or cutting up someone else's meat.
And then they grow and go to school...now what?!
Oh a lot of searching, researching, reading, praying...
This new career path would have to offer me what I needed the most: to keep my priorities, my priorities. My top 3? Faith, marriage and family. Here are the questions I asked myself about my next job choices:
- If the kids are sick, can I stay home without losing pay?
- If the kids have a concert/field trip/class event, can I be there?
- If Husband has a meeting/trip, can my schedule be adjusted to comply with his?
- How much do we actually need me to make?
- What kind of benefits do I need?
- Can I be disciplined enough to: be my own boss; work from home; juggle multiple client deadlines?
But the bottom line is this career of mine has given me a great deal of flexibility, something that you can't always put a price tag on.
What season of motherhood are you in right now? How have you redefined your life/career/choices?